That moment stuck with me – not because the language was difficult, but because I realised how many of these tiny call-and-response moments shape the rhythm of everyday German. It’s a rhythm I hadn’t quite tuned into yet – social choreography built on set phrases and expected replies.

These phrases aren’t complex and neither do they require advanced grammar, meaning that with a little memorisation and repeated rehearsals of the same phrases, it’s easy to sound in control of a German conversation.

That’s what this list (also a free downloadable PDF word mat) is for. I’ve organised real, everyday German, into a simple “They say / You say” structure.

Use it to build confidence, stay in the conversation, and sound just a little more like a local:

Greetings and chit chat

Graduating from Wie geht’s? – Gut is the first step to making your German sound more native.

The irony of refining your German to sound more like a native is that you can end up using fewer words, not more! Here are a few call and response phrases to get you started:

They say…	You say…
Na, alles gut? What’s up? All good? Es ist schön dich zu sehen! It’s nice to see you Was gibt’s Neues? What’s new?	Na? / Gut, und selbst? What’s up? / Good, and you? Dich auch! / Ganz meinerseits! You too! / The pleasure is entirely mine! Nicht viel. Und bei dir? Not much. And you?

Dining

If you’ve succeeded in getting an invitation to eat at a German’s house, you’ve made considerable strides!

If you live in Germany and still haven’t had the pleasure, read my How to make friends in Germany and improve your German: 8 methods rated post for a crack at an invitation.

When you do go for dinner, here’s how to handle it:

They say…	You say…
Prost! Cheers! Hat es dir geschmeckt? Did you enjoy it? Danke für das Essen! Thank you for the meal	Prost! / Zum Wohl! / Auf uns! To your health! / To us! Es war richtig gut It was really good Gern geschehen! / Hat mich gefreut! You’re welcome! / It was a pleasure!

Hospitality and departing

There are lots of tiny little niceties that you can say before saying goodbye, to avoid that awkward silence as you put your shoes back on:

They say…	You say…
Schön, dass du da warst So nice that you came Komm gut nach Hause! Get home safe! Lass bald wieder von dir hören! Stay in touch!	Danke, es war schön bei dir / euch Thanks, it was lovely being with you Danke, du auch! / Mach ich, danke! Thanks, you too / I will, thanks! Auf jeden Fall / Ich meld mich Of course / I’ll get in touch

Compliments and politeness

Knowing how to accept (or give!) a compliment in German can feel awkward at first, and it can be hard to know what to say as a response, apart from Danke. Here are some additional phrases to say as standalone phrases, or to tack on after Danke:

They say…	You say…
Vielen Dank für deine Hilfe Thank you very much for your help Super gemacht! Great job! Gute Idee! Good idea!	Keine Ursache / Gern geschehen! No problem / You’re welcome! Vielen Dank! Das bedeutet mir viel Thank you very much! That means a lot Freut mich, dass du das auch so siehst Thanks, I thought so too

Farewells

You’ll only very rarely hear Auf Wiedersehen in very formal contexts, often from older people. Tschüss and Tchau are common farewells, but they’re also very final.

If you want to mix it up from time to time, it’s nice to leave a conversation with some kind of well-wishing or commitment to see each other again soon:

They say…	You say…
Mach’s gut! Take care! Komm gut heim! Get home safe! Schönen Feierabend! Have a nice (workday) evening!	Du auch! / Bis bald! You too! / See you soon! Danke, dir auch einen schönen Abend! Thanks, have a nice evening! Ebenfalls! Danke dir! Likewise! Thanks!

Reacting

I was an excellent listener for my first six months in Germany. I let my conversation partners talk uninterrupted for as long as they liked, purely because I had no idea how to react to what they were saying…

Show your friends you’re invested in their storytelling with these easy wins:

Oje Echt? Mensch!

Oh dear Really? Man! Jeez!

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Final thoughts

I call this kind of small talk “call and response” because, over time, the phrases work like cues – you hear one, and the right reply pops up automatically. And the more you hear and use them, the more confident and natural you’ll feel.

Once these replies feel familiar, you’ll begin to riff on them. You’ll tweak them and add your own twist – and that’s where your real voice in German starts to emerge.

Keep practising, keep listening and let the rhythm of the language carry you forward.

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